Rejection can make us question our own sense of self worth and motivate us towards detrimental behaviours such as investing more time and energy into winning that person back. It becomes the point of focus and you enter a warped sense of reality where you truly believe the person can be all you hoped for.
Does rejection Increase attraction?
Rejection has a direct and fast influence on what we desire in a romantic partner, study finds. Women quickly become less choosy after they have been rejected for a date, according to research published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences.
Can you be attracted to rejection?
In fact you might also, without meaning to, be attracting the very sorts of people who tend to reject others. These would be people with their own strong feelings of rejection and with things like intimacy issues. They might also be people with narcissistic traits or narcissistic personality disorder.
Why are we attracted to those who reject us?
The answer is Dopamine. A drug like chemical that pulsates the body in search of pleasure. Its the dopamine-driven reward loop that triggers a rush of euphoric drug-like highs when chasing a crush, and the desire to experience them repeatedly.